Living in the town that I do and having the kind of job that I have, gives me the opportunity to interact with many individuals who are going through some sort of shift.
Usually this shift is life-changing, consciousness altering and sometimes can be…scary.
A complete surrendering of the reality that one once knew to a complete unknown reality of what actually is—that’s kinda heavy. If you don’t know how to navigate through it, which you probably don’t cos you’ve never done it before (in this lifetime anyway) times can be tough and rough and hard to bear. Here are some ways in which may help you flow with ease into the transition…
1. You’ve realized the limited identity of the “ego” and false security of the “sense-of-self.”
AHHHH! Ok, so you’re not who you really thought you were. Traveling is a catalyst for self-discovery, because the traveler realizes there is so much more outside of their sense of home, country, and/or life. Once you step out of treaded terrain, you’re in foreign territory. There’s nothing to do but surrender. You can’t force your ideas and projections onto a new scene that won’t hold them. The only thing you’ll get in return is a satirical play of the contraptions of your mind. Know that this is normal, and it’s okay to feel like you’ve “lost it” and “you don’t know who you are anymore.” Once you know you don’t know, you know everything. Like Socrates said, “All I know is I know nothing.”
2. Stop running away.
Stay still. It’s not the place that you hate. The backdrop is just a backdrop. What you hate is what is arising from you within the backdrop that you don’t necessarily want to look at. You have to be willing to look at all the different parts of yourself…the beautiful and the ugly. My friend Malia lives by this saying that says, “I’d rather light a candle than sit in the dark.” In the chambers of the depths of you, shed some love and light onto the areas that you are afraid to look at. If you don’t bring luminosity into the darkness, it shall remain dark. You bring light into dark and immediately the room brightens up. Funny how that works. Try it.
3. There are others who have been through what you’re going through.
We humans are intriquately unique and delicately fashioned—although, as obscure as we individually are, we’re not all that different. We’re made up of the same types of materials, bones, muscles, veins, blood, skin, we experience the same feelings, happiness, sadness, grief, joy, you get the picture. Life’s offering is however we are capable of receiving her. There are people who have been through similar situations as you. There are people who can relate. There are people who understand. There are people who have felt what you’re feeling. All the people you are looking for are right there in front of you. Life always gives us and presents to us exactly what and who we need to be with at that very moment. Stay present and pay attention to what you have the possibility to receive.
4. Take your time.
Immediate life changes don’t have to happen overnight. You can choose however style you want to make the shift. You can go for it 1,111% or you can slowly shed, 10% by 10%, slowly bit by bit. It’s up to you and what you’re ready for, really. Everybody’s different. Acknowledge that yes, the shift is happening within and around you, but you don’t have to rush into anything. If you rush, you’ll miss out on all the subtleties that lie in your experience. Take advantage of this time of unknowing and explore the realms of mystery. It’s okay to not have to know the answer. Sometimes digging just to go on a dig is enough. “You just gotta dig goin’ on a dig.” John Lennon said that.
5. You’re doing the right thing.
Trust yourself. Don’t question the validity of what you are experiencing, just because your mind is saying “well this couldn’t really be..” If internally you are awakening to some kind of truth that nobody else sees, but you feel is REAL—harness it, don’t ever let it stray and nurture what it is inside you that is happening. You’re waking up. You’re awakening. You soul is beginning to take seat in your feet. It’s weird at first, but trust me—you’ll start to get used to it.
Chloe Park is an artist, holistic healing practitioner and yoga and meditation instructor. She is currently traveling the world to share her message: unconditional love and self-healing. Connect with Chloe Park, and look for her articles on Organic Soul.
October 15, 2012 at 10:44 am
Wonderful. love it. A great reminder.
October 21, 2012 at 11:49 am
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